Body Language an Introduction

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Have you ever wanted to picture yourself in a perfect world where no one is ever misunderstood? Have you ever imagined a meeting where no one misunderstands anyone and no one ever has to re word a statement to help someone understand the meaning of what you're saying? If so, then knowing how to read someone else's body language will help you to gain this knowledge.

Understanding how body language affects us is the key to understanding others and helping them to understand us better. Learn how body language can be an asset in public speaking, interviewing for a job or even day to day interactions with others. Be ahead of the crowd by learning what body language says about us, but more importantly, what other's body language says about them.

Reading the signals of body language

Paying attention to what others are saying will go far in helping communications to flow smoothly between the speaker and the listener. Learning to understand body language however, will help the listener to respond appropriately to the speaker. Reading body language isn't as complicated as it may sound. Although it is an art, there are some easy tips and tricks for reading body language that will help the listener to understand better what the speaker is actually saying.

Experts estimate that nonverbal (body language) communication accounts for over half of all social interactions. Learning to separate these nonverbal cues is the key to interpreting what others are truly saying.

Teens use body language constantly. Some girls seem to have all the friends while others don't seem to have any. Why is that? Watch their body language. The girl with all of the friends is open and receptive. She's not only smiling, she's making conversation and not closing herself off. The girl with fewer friends is much more closed off. Crossing her arms over her chest frequently, seeming to hide within herself. She's nonverbally telling others to back off and leave her alone.

Although learning to read these cues may take some time, subconsciously we read them daily without realizing it. The art of reading body language is learning to understand these cues on a conscious level.

Body language can account for many a marital spat. Consider the spouse standing with arms crossed vs the spouse with open arms. Actions truly do speak louder than words when it comes to body language. Even unacknowledged nonverbal cues are speaking a loud message to the others around them.

Important uses of reading body language

Most people have had a job interview in their lifetime. During the job interview the interviewer is often reading the body language of the interviewee. These silent statements are often being registered and recorded right along with the statements and answers the interviewee is giving to the interviewer.

Many interviewers have learned how to tell a dishonest job candidate from an honest one simply by watching for these silent nonverbal communication cues. An interviewer notices if a candidate won't look the interviewer in the eye or places the hand up near the mouth area while answering the questions at hand. These are often cues of dishonesty.

Although body language isn't the total decision making factor in a job interview, the information gleaned from the interview will be coupled with the body language as the decision is being made.

Think about the last time a politician spoke. What were his or her nonverbal cues? Was the politician believable? Or did others question the integrity of what they were saying? Why was this? Usually it's from body language. Although politicians are noted for telling others what they want to hear, some of them are honest and straightforward.

Is the politician standing there with arms crossed and telling about how open he or she is to new ideas? Is his or her chin down as if appearing critical or hostile? The body language certainly doesn't show that this person is open and willing to listen to others.

Consider instead the politician that's looking directly at people, arms open and head straight. What does this say to the crowd? Body language speaks volumes over our voices. Thinking of body language as a foreign language that not everyone knows or understand will go far in helping to understand the dynamics of its uses.

Another great way body language is used is to persuade someone to do something or to believe in something. Holding the hands just so, looking directly at the person and positioning the body to face them or face away from them will go far in helping them to see the point of view desired. Getting the body language right can make or break persuading someone to see something from another point of view.

Benefits of using body language

Body language is something that can be used in every day situations as well as job interviews, listening to public speakers, catching a liar, winning an argument or persuading someone to a different point of view.

Reading body language is a valuable asset for employees, students, co workers, friends, family, neighbors and even when meeting others for the very first time. Knowing that communication is as important nonverbally as it is verbally will go far in helping to understand the complex dynamics of communicating with others successfully.

Nonverbal communication cues can also help to make the point during a speech or giving a verbal report, impacting the speakers statement. These silent impact statements are very powerful tools to the speaker. Without actually saying a word they are clearly stating their position or lack thereof.

What our body language says about us will make or break a great first impression. Just picture how body language will be helpful with friends and family. Use it with confidence to defuse a bad situation with family, friends or co workers. Use it against those who frustrate and annoy others the most.

Successfully learning to use body language in daily interactions will help you to be successful in life and get what you want out of life.

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